The Revelation Project - Episodes Tagged with “Man Box”

Episode 139: SUMMER SERIES: Susan Hyatt - The Emotional Labor of Women

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 10 Aug 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Emotional labor is the exertion of energy for the purpose of addressing people’s feelings, making people comfortable, or living up to social expectations. It’s called “emotional labor” because it ends up using – and often draining – our emotional resources.

Emotional labor was a feeling I knew well before I knew it was a thing! It's such a relief to put language to something I could not previously articulate.

I can recall many situations in past relationships, at work, or in family dynamics where I would end up profoundly resenting putting in the extra time when it came to doing the heavy lifting of emotional labor.

"I'll clean if you just tell me what to clean!" or all the boyfriends who could not be bothered to pay attention to what I was saying I needed so that I had to spell it out! How about the time my father took me to girl scouts, and all the women in the room looked at him like he was a saint for doing something my mother had done a million times? How about at the office when I was expected to answer the door buzzer when we were all in the conference room in a meeting of peers? I mean, the examples go on and on and on and on…

I loved this riveting conversation with Susan Hyatt; I know you'll love her energy. We were both practically buzzing with resonance in all we were sharing. In this episode, we cover some major ground:

Where can other women start examining the impact of invisible labor in our own lives? First step- start noticing!
Why do we call emotional labor the 3rd shift?
The impact of placing the majority of emotional labor on women and how the symptoms often present
Hear why Susan is so passionate about closing the gaps in gender roles with confidence, leisure, wealth, and more.
Learn what steps you can take to close those gaps in your own life.
Listen to how Susan started to gain clarity about how to get the men and kids around her to start taking up the emotional slack.
The more we are honest about our struggles, the more we can help one another move through them.
Staying indoctrinated into silence and shame keeps us there.

Susan Hyatt is a Master Certified Life and Business Coach, and one of the world's leading voices on mindset, motivation, and how to become an unstoppable woman. She's also a #1 bestselling author and TEDx speaker; founder of the University for Life Coach Training; and the founder of BARE, a trademarked process that helps women shed body image issues, stop dieting, and treat their bodies with love and respect—leading to huge mental and physical health breakthroughs.

Episode 113: Susan Hyatt - The Emotional Labor of Women

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 09 Feb 2022 00:15:00 -0500

Emotional labor was a feeling I knew well before I knew it was a thing! It’s such a relief to put language to something I could not previously articulate.

I can recall many situations in past relationships, at work, or in family dynamics where I would end up deeply resenting putting in the the extra time when it came to doing the heavy lifting of emotional labor.

"I’ll clean if you just tell me what to clean!” or all the boyfriends who could not be bothered to pay attention to what I was saying I needed so that I had to spell it out! How about the time my father took me to girl scouts and all the women in the room looked at him like he was a saint for doing something my mother had done a million times. How about at the office when I was expected to answer the door buzzer when we were all in the conference room in a meeting of piers? I mean, the examples go on and on and on and on…

I loved this riveting conversation with Susan Hyatt and I know you’ll love her energy. We were both practically buzzing with resonance in all we were sharing together. In this episode we cover some major ground:

Where can other women start examining the impact of invisible labor in our own lives? First step- start noticing!
Why do we call emotional labor the 3rd shift?
What is the overall impact of doing most of the emotional labor on women and how do the symptoms present?
Hear about why Susan is so passionate about closing the gaps in gender roles with confidence leisure, wealth and more.
Learn what steps you can take to close those gaps in your own life.
Listen to how Susan started to gain clarity about how to get the men and kids around her to start taking up the emotional slack.
The more we are honest about our struggles, the more we can help one another move through them.
Staying indoctrinated into silence and shame keeps us there.

Susan Hyatt is a Master Certified Life and Business Coach, and one of the world’s leading voices on mindset, motivation, and how to become an unstoppable woman. She's also a #1 bestselling author and TEDx speaker; founder of the University for Life Coach Training; and the founder of BARE, a trademarked process that helps women shed body image issues, stop dieting, and treat their bodies with love and respect—leading to huge mental and physical health breakthroughs.

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Episode 63: Ken Mossman - Big Boys Cry

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 24 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0500

I met Ken almost a decade ago and felt an instant kinship with him.
In addition to being a masterful coach, I admire his capacity as a human being to hold complexity and emotion, as well as his great dedication to working with Men toward greater emotional fluency.

After the events at the Capitol on January 6th, I reached out to Ken seeking comfort and a deeper understanding of what I was witnessing. I felt helpless, triggered, and overwhelmed by the series of events that had unfolded that day and how we got there.

Throughout this episode, I was mightily triggered. I’m grateful for Ken’s steady and compassionate response as we explored the underpinnings of what happened that day and what we can do to start to be part of the change we want to see in the world for the men in our country and our sons.

Ken Mossman has specialized in working with men for almost two decades. With an international clientele from a wide variety of industries from finance, academia, and technology – to entrepreneurship and the arts, Ken’s focus is on helping men expand their emotional literacy, fluency, and flexibility so they can lead with presence and empathy.
Ken is a Senior Faculty Member with CTI, the Co-Active Training Institute. In addition to his coaching and training work, he writes regularly, hosts the “Mojo for the Modern Man” podcast, and designs and leads intensive, deep programs for men.

Show Notes:

On January 6th, 2021, Ken's sister contacted him about the siege at the Capitol and the unfolding violence. Ken's reaction to what he saw on the news felt like a “gut punch" and included tension in his neck and jaw along with a sense of “there’s no surprise here” while simultaneously feeling the shock of what was happening.
The roots of the events have a larger cultural context that we seem to be in denial about.
"We are a nation of good and decent people” seems to be the refrain heard over and over again. Still, the truth is that our nation was built on wobbly legs of genocide, slavery, colonization, and brutality.
Many of the images we saw that day are emblematic of toxic white male privilege and gross characterizations of “The Man Box” in cosplay.
A population fed on a steady diet of misinformation and a toxic model of white male privilege and feelings of anger and invisibility created the Capitol events that day.
One of the Trump administration hallmarks was this idea of “the enemy,” and his language and energy were often about "us or them.”
Rage is a culmination of unexpressed anger, hopelessness, and invisibility.
Many men in our country lack the relational and communication skills needed to break out of the “man box.”
When it comes to raising our children, we need to be mindful of our internal dialog and catch ourselves as parents when we find ourselves triggered by our own unresolved “stuff.”
We need to ask ourselves if we are modeling healthy behavior for our children regarding the full range of human emotion. We need to recognize that the language we have to raise boys falls short and creates an environment for rage.

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