The Revelation Project - Episodes Tagged with “Mother Wound”

Episode 122: Sara and Charlotte Vetter - Mother-Daughter Healing

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 13 Apr 2022 00:15:00 -0400

I hope you enjoy this moving and provocative interview on Mother Daughter healing with Sara and Charlotte Vetter.

I became aware of the mother wound in my life at an early age but had no idea how common it was. It was not until I viewed my relationships through a patriarchal lens that I was able to see more clearly how this dynamic is established and then passed down through the generations.

I think this is a subject that’s critically important and is finally being revealed. I am deeply grateful for the love and liberation modeled in this episode between these two beautiful women because this work takes so much courage and self-reflection. I’m honored they trusted me to facilitate the interview- it was a gift to witness.

“For daughters growing up in a patriarchal culture, there is a sense of having to choose between being empowered and being loved.” - Bethany Webster

In this episode you’ll hear about:

Sara’s breakdown and divorce when Charlotte was 12 years old.
The Mother Wound and how it’s passed through the generations from mother to daughter.
Hear Charlotte describe what it was like to witness her mother's unhappiness and how she coped as a teenager.
Hear about Sara and Charlotte's patriarchal upbringing and how they chose different paths.
Why does generational trauma get passed down in a patriarchal culture?
How Charlotte and Sara made their way back to each other after distance and healing.
Charlotte’s interest in “next culture” and sustainable and community living.
Historically, women have internalized toxic messages which condition us to believe that our worth is tied to patriarchal values such as our level of production, or our identity as wife, caretaker, and mother- and how this is changing.
As more women awaken to our worthiness and sufficiency in the Sophia Century, we break the generational patterns that keep us in oppressive behaviors of self-sacrifice, and disempowerment while teaching our daughters to do the same.

Charlotte Vetter is a playful powerhouse with a deep devotion to living an awakened life. Her mission is to ignite inspiration through transformative and impactful experiences while empowering individuals with the tools to feel resourced and radically expressed.

Known for her soul blueprint evolutionary astrology readings and engaging live classes, Charlotte’s approach is strong, yet graceful. By bringing levity to challenges, she guides her clients to honor themselves, while breaking through blockages to reprogram body and mind. The result? A life filled with more radiant JOY.

Sara Vetter is the Managing Director of the Soul of Money Institute and is a coach, consultant, workshop leader, keynote speaker and strategist.
She has been working with the Soul of Money Institute since 2001 and has become a key player in all the initiatives of the institute, working in partnership with Author and Founder Lynne Twist.

She is also the Major Gift Officer and fundraiser extraordinaire for the Pachamama Alliance, raising millions of dollars a year for the last 12 years- Pachamama alliance is an alliance between indigenous people of the Amazon and conscious committed people in the modern world and has raised millions of dollars and led and participated in more than 20 delegations and leads high level immersion trips to the Amazon Rainforest
Sara has played a leadership role with the Nobel Women's Initiative, working closely with the six Nobel Women Peace Prize Laureates on fundraising, strategy and special delegations. Sara has co-led delegations to Dharamsala, India to see his Holiness the Dalai Lama, the Democratic Republic of Congo to work with Nobel Laureate Leymah Gbowee. She also co-led a coalition to Liberia working closely with Ms. Gbowe and Nobel Laureates Jody Williams, Mairead Maguire and Shirin Ebadi.

Sara is also a member of the WPO (Women’s Presidents Organization).
Sara’s effectiveness in producing results for the Soul of Money Institute and Pachamama Alliance are legendary. It was her initiative that landed Lynne Twist’s interview on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday in 2016.

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Episode 100: Laura Davis - The Burning Light of Two Stars

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 10 Nov 2021 00:15:00 -0500

"The Burning Light of Two Stars: A Mother-Daughter Story" was such a beautiful book, and its author Laura Davis was a total delight to interview. Having had my own childhood trauma and troubled parental relationships, this book was incredibly helpful in helping to illuminate the deeper truths that lie under the surface of my personal struggle. I found peace and compassion in ways that surprised me.

Can you caretake a parent who betrayed you in the past? Is it possible to become open-hearted when life has taught you it's safer to stay protected and closed? How do we reconcile with someone we are estranged from when we disagree about some basic facts/realities in life? What does the healing process from trauma look like over the course of a lifetime? What does it mean to write about people in your life -- what are the ethical issues and concerns?

This riveting memoir by Laura Davis, also the author of The Courage to Heal, examines the endurance of mother-daughter love, how memory protects and betrays us, and the determination it takes to fulfill a promise when ghosts from the past come knocking.

When she published The Courage to Heal in 1988, Laura Davis helped more than a million women work through the trauma of childhood sexual abuse. But her decision to go public with her grandfather’s incest deepened an already painful estrangement with her mother, Temme.
Over the next twenty years, from a safe distance of 3,000 miles, Laura and Temme reconciled their volatile relationship and believed that their difficult past was behind them. But when Temme moved across the country to entrust her daughter with the rest of her life, she brought a faltering mind, a fierce need for independence, and the seeds of a second war between them. As the stresses of caregiving rekindled Laura’s rage over past betrayals, they threatened her intention to finally love her mother “without reservation.” Did she learn what it means to be truly open-hearted before it was too late?

What essential elements make reconciliation possible? Impossible?
What are the secrets of reconciling with someone you’re estranged from – someone you were deeply hurt or injured by or someone who’s simply different from you?
How can family members stay in a relationship when they can’t agree on critical elements of their collective past? What does it mean to “agree to disagree?”
Once you’ve said, “I’ll never forgive you,” what does it take to forgive?
Is it really possible to come to peace with the things about our family members that we can’t understand, change or even tolerate?
What are the three most important things to remember when attempting to make peace with an estranged family member?
After you say, “me too,” after you stand up and break the silence, then what happens? Is it possible to ever truly transcend the long-term effects of abuse?
How does the healing process evolve and change over the course of a lifetime?
What does it mean to keep growing decades after the initial healing from trauma took place?
Can a heart that is walled off for good reason, find ways to open again?
When, if ever, is it possible to reconcile with those who have betrayed us in the past?

Laura Davis is the author of seven books, including The Courage to Heal, Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, and I Thought We‘d Never Speak Again. Her groundbreaking books have been translated into 11 languages and sold two million copies. In addition to writing books that inspire and change people’s lives, the work of Laura’s heart is to teach. For more than twenty years, she’s helped people find their voices, tell their stories, and hone their craft. Laura loves creating supportive, intimate writing communities online, in person, and internationally. Today we’ll be talking about her brand new memoir, The Burning Light of Two Stars: A Mother-Daughter Story, the story of her embattled yet loving relationship with her mother.

This episode sponsored by Nina Manolson Body-Peace Seekers

Episode 47: Kerri Hummingbird - The Mother Wound

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 28 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0400

The Mother Wound.

This is a subject that is near and dear to me because of my own experience healing this wound, and it’s a continual theme in my work as a co-active coach. Most often, women are unaware that they have a throbbing Mother wound waiting to be revealed and healed.

Often the wound continues to cause problems in the lives of women because they don’t understand the source of their pain and if they do, they are taught not to talk about it.

From a very early age, we are raised to reject the feminine. Our initial split is usually unconscious but begins with that which represents the feminine, our own mother.
We are taught that an alternative to being “feminine” is to seek to emulate the masculine because it’s what we glorify in this culture, and so many women become lost, deeply yearning for the missing and rejected parts of herself.

In a patriarchal culture, we are taught that to be feminine is weak, emotional, crazy, manipulative, and needy. Because our own mothers grew up inside the same patriarchal culture, they often exhibit symptoms of the wound and perpetuate it through their own fractured parenting, or pass it through the womb. They too are trapped between a rock and a hard place due to the fact that our society does not value their role in the family structure, nor do they value themselves, because, wound.

In addition to the fact that we don’t celebrate the feminine in our culture, we also can’t speak of the fracture, because to speak ill of your mother is taboo. While we can poke fun through media, comedy, literature, and theatre, we are bound to a collective shame should we dare speak out against the women who birthed us into the world.

Healing the Mother-Daughter split involves grieving the initial separation from or rejection of her, as well as the rejection of that part of ourselves, and then learning to honor the values that we've been cut off from as women - a reclaiming of our own feminine, and ultimately a reclamation and integration of both the feminine and the masculine.
Join me in welcoming back Kerri Hummingbird, Soul Guide, here to talk to us about her latest book -Love is Fierce, Healing the Mother Wound

Kerri Hummingbird inspires people to lead their lives wide awake with authenticity, passion, and purpose that positively impacts others. She catalyzes mind-shifts that transform life challenges into gifts of wisdom with her Reinvent Yourself programs for individual and group mentoring. She is the international best-selling author of The Second Wave: Transcending the Human Drama and the award-winning best-selling book Awakening To Me: One Woman’s Journey To Self Love which describes the early years of her spiritual awakening. She has served as a social activist, leader, and philanthropist for over three decades. Kerri is also the Founder of the Skills Not Pills Movement and Host of the Soul Nectar Show. Her latest book is available now on [Amazon]((http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B08KFPJZXG/revelationpro-20))