The Revelation Project - Episodes Tagged with “Relational Skills”

Episode 104: Kass Thomas - The Energy of Change

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 08 Dec 2021 00:15:00 -0500

_To Create Movement in Stagnant Waters, You Have to Keep Evolving. _

Meet Kass Thomas, a successful business entrepreneur, and communication expert. The depth and range of her life and career experiences inspire people to explore more choices and find the changes they are looking for. It is her mission in life to strengthen the unity of choice and change. She inspires clients to discover their unique brand of magic.

A best-selling author, Kass Thomas recently released her new book, Dancing with Riches, a self-empowerment manual, to encourage readers to change tracks if the journey they are on is not working for them. Within the pages of her book, readers will find a guide to transform negative into positive, and to come through a winner, even in limiting situations. Her non-judgmental demeanor creates a safe space for many to express themselves with ease. She is a catalyst for multicultural inclusion. Kass believes there is so much more that unites us than separates us.

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What inspires others to create change
Kass’s story and journey to helping others explore choices and change
Why humans choose predictable routes
How can we disrupt predictability to evolve continuously
Why so many actually fear change, and how we can work with them
How can we reveal the best version of ourselves
Why Kass calls her work Dancing with Riches *How to transform the negative into the positive, even in limiting situations.

Episode 82: Sarah MacLaughlin - Raising Humans With Heart

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 07 Jul 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Parenting can be so challenging, and it is the most incredible experience that I would not trade for anything.

Sarah MacLaughlin and I met through Megan Jo Wilson’s Rockstar Camp. Her work is centered on being a Rockstar in the parenting world, helping parents connect at deeper relational levels with their children. She is truly a wealth of insight and resources.

Sarah is also a social worker, parent educator, and author of another award-winning bestselling book, "What Not To Say: Tools for Talking With Young Children." Her new book, "Raising Humans With Heart: Not a How-To Manual," was written during the pandemic, when it seemed more important than ever for parents and children to have the tools and skills to communicate deeply and authentically.

She works full-time as a writer, trainer, and content expert for ZERO TO THREE, a national nonprofit dedicated to ensuring that all babies and toddlers have a strong start in life. Sarah writes the Parenting Toolbox column for Portland, Maine's Parent & Family magazine and her writing has been featured online at The Huffington Post and The Good Men Project

Truth exists mainly in paradoxes where situations can be both hard and soft, difficult and easy, and it’s great to remember to soften when we are finding ourselves in a polarizing place as parents with our children.
When we are raising humans with heart, we have to remember to open our own and model what it looks like to be vulnerable and loving. It’s when we stop being in our heads and get into our hearts and speak to our children from the heart.
Children learn more from who we are and what we model, not from what we say or teach.
Get curious about your child's behavior. Get curious about your reaction to your child's behavior. Get curious about the story you're telling yourself about that dynamic because there are always multiple things going on at any given moment that can be revealed and that give us access to tenderness, compassion, and love.
Do you know your ACE score? Aces Too High is an adverse childhood experiences quiz that can tell you a lot about your level of childhood trauma, even if you don’t think you have any- prepare to be surprised.
The more we can learn to tune into ourselves and the unaddressed wounds we might still carry, the more we can effectively guide and nurture our children in a loving way.
Practicing transparency and accountability with our children is key to raising humans with heart.
Learn how to foster creativity, inclusivity, and community with your kids with an eye toward eliminating bias.
Learn the #1 thing you can do when your very last nerve is shot and you want to center before you speak or act.

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Episode 63: Ken Mossman - Big Boys Cry

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 24 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0500

I met Ken almost a decade ago and felt an instant kinship with him.
In addition to being a masterful coach, I admire his capacity as a human being to hold complexity and emotion, as well as his great dedication to working with Men toward greater emotional fluency.

After the events at the Capitol on January 6th, I reached out to Ken seeking comfort and a deeper understanding of what I was witnessing. I felt helpless, triggered, and overwhelmed by the series of events that had unfolded that day and how we got there.

Throughout this episode, I was mightily triggered. I’m grateful for Ken’s steady and compassionate response as we explored the underpinnings of what happened that day and what we can do to start to be part of the change we want to see in the world for the men in our country and our sons.

Ken Mossman has specialized in working with men for almost two decades. With an international clientele from a wide variety of industries from finance, academia, and technology – to entrepreneurship and the arts, Ken’s focus is on helping men expand their emotional literacy, fluency, and flexibility so they can lead with presence and empathy.
Ken is a Senior Faculty Member with CTI, the Co-Active Training Institute. In addition to his coaching and training work, he writes regularly, hosts the “Mojo for the Modern Man” podcast, and designs and leads intensive, deep programs for men.

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On January 6th, 2021, Ken's sister contacted him about the siege at the Capitol and the unfolding violence. Ken's reaction to what he saw on the news felt like a “gut punch" and included tension in his neck and jaw along with a sense of “there’s no surprise here” while simultaneously feeling the shock of what was happening.
The roots of the events have a larger cultural context that we seem to be in denial about.
"We are a nation of good and decent people” seems to be the refrain heard over and over again. Still, the truth is that our nation was built on wobbly legs of genocide, slavery, colonization, and brutality.
Many of the images we saw that day are emblematic of toxic white male privilege and gross characterizations of “The Man Box” in cosplay.
A population fed on a steady diet of misinformation and a toxic model of white male privilege and feelings of anger and invisibility created the Capitol events that day.
One of the Trump administration hallmarks was this idea of “the enemy,” and his language and energy were often about "us or them.”
Rage is a culmination of unexpressed anger, hopelessness, and invisibility.
Many men in our country lack the relational and communication skills needed to break out of the “man box.”
When it comes to raising our children, we need to be mindful of our internal dialog and catch ourselves as parents when we find ourselves triggered by our own unresolved “stuff.”
We need to ask ourselves if we are modeling healthy behavior for our children regarding the full range of human emotion. We need to recognize that the language we have to raise boys falls short and creates an environment for rage.

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