Episode 85: Ximena Vengoechea - Listen Like You Mean It

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 28 Jul 2021 00:00:00 -0400

I have long believed that the most powerful, useful, and underutilized skill we have at our disposal is the skill of listening.

If you want to help heal the world and create peace on earth - learn to listen!

Meet Ximena. She’s brilliant, articulate, and passionate about helping others develop this powerful skill. We had such a rich conversation about how learning this skill can quite literally change everything for the better.

Ximena Vengoechea is a user researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., The Washington Post, Newsweek, and Huffington Post. She is the author of the new book, Listen Like You Mean It: Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection (from Portfolio Books/Penguin Random House). She is a contributor at Fast Company and The Muse and writes "Letters from Ximena," a newsletter on tech, culture, career, and creativity. She is best known for her project The Life Audit. An experienced manager, mentor, and researcher in the tech industry, Ximena previously worked at Pinterest, LinkedIn, and Twitter.

In this episode:

Learn why listening is the key to intimacy and connection.
Why listening can be such a gift and such an act of generosity and love.
Why when people don’t feel heard, they often escalate their behavior and lash out.
Why listening is a “slow” skill and how to bring more peace into our lives by learning to do it.
There are layers to listening, and often if we are paying attention, we can hear other important things that get revealed when we truly listen.
How to protect yourself from being a listening martyr and getting listening fatigue. In other words, how can empaths protect themselves when they are deeply listening to others?
Learn how to listen with compassion without taking on the emotional energy of someone else.
Why awkward silence is such an important part of the listening skill set.
Conduct a relationship audit to determine where you have energy leaks.

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Episode 62: Dr. Dain Heer - No Judgment

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 17 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0500

No Judgment.

Even the title of this episode makes me breathe easy.

I loved my conversation with Dain and gained so much insight and enjoyment from listening to him talk. He spoke about the power of non-judgment and why it is vital to our wellbeing to clear judgment from our energetic centers so that we can stop suppressing our true nature and live a life of allowance. In this episode, he teaches us to uncreate the realities that no longer serve us. That all of the projections, expectations, separations, and rejections placed on us by ourselves or by anybody else keep us from being as weird and different as we are. He encourages us to let that go and create something new by accessing our conscious awareness. I have no doubt you will gain deep awareness just by listening to this episode.

Meet Dr. Dain Heer:

Dr. Dain Heer is an internationally renowned author, speaker, and facilitator of consciousness and change. For over 20 years, he has been inviting people to embrace their true greatness—people from every culture, country, age, and social strata.

In his talks and workshops, he uses a unique set of tools and provides step-by-step energetic processes to get people out of the answers, conclusions, and judgments that are keeping them stuck in a cycle of no choice and no change – leading them into the moments of awe that have the power to change anything.

For Dain, judgment is the biggest killer on the planet, especially the judgment of ourselves. Based on his own life experience, he asks, “what if we could get out of the wrongness of ourselves and see every wrongness, the places where we judge ourselves the most, as a strength? What would be possible then?”

Show Notes:

One of the most seductive things in the world is when someone sees you with no judgment. And we keep looking for that from the outside world or hoping for it and very seldom receiving it. And yet we never looked to how can I be that person for myself?
Symptoms of the trance of unworthiness, perfectionism, and self-loathing are all based on judgment.
We live in a world where parents are taught that the right way to be a parent is to teach their kids to judge. The idea is to teach them to judge right from wrong and good from bad.
We've gotten away from asking questions. When we were kids with such curiosity about the world, most of us were made to feel wrong for asking way too many questions.
A definition for consciousness: “where everything and everyone exists, and no one and nothing is judged."
Access Consciousness is available in over 183 countries, and they have about 700 facilitators worldwide.
People are depressed, confused, overwhelmed, and don’t know how to ask the questions that get them started on their own journey. Teen Incidence of suicide is skyrocketing worldwide.
Beginning to function from a state of allowance will ease the suffering of many, many people.
People are either seekers: growth aware, or non-seeking: growth averse.
Laughter truly is the best medicine.

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Episode 85: Ximena Vengoechea - Listen Like You Mean It

Episode 62: Dr. Dain Heer - No Judgment