Episode 139

SUMMER SERIES: Susan Hyatt - The Emotional Labor of Women

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About this Episode

Emotional labor is the exertion of energy for the purpose of addressing people’s feelings, making people comfortable, or living up to social expectations. It’s called “emotional labor” because it ends up using – and often draining – our emotional resources.

Emotional labor was a feeling I knew well before I knew it was a thing! It's such a relief to put language to something I could not previously articulate.

I can recall many situations in past relationships, at work, or in family dynamics where I would end up profoundly resenting putting in the extra time when it came to doing the heavy lifting of emotional labor.

"I'll clean if you just tell me what to clean!" or all the boyfriends who could not be bothered to pay attention to what I was saying I needed so that I had to spell it out! How about the time my father took me to girl scouts, and all the women in the room looked at him like he was a saint for doing something my mother had done a million times? How about at the office when I was expected to answer the door buzzer when we were all in the conference room in a meeting of peers? I mean, the examples go on and on and on and on…

I loved this riveting conversation with Susan Hyatt; I know you'll love her energy. We were both practically buzzing with resonance in all we were sharing. In this episode, we cover some major ground:

  • Where can other women start examining the impact of invisible labor in our own lives? First step- start noticing!
  • Why do we call emotional labor the 3rd shift?
  • The impact of placing the majority of emotional labor on women and how the symptoms often present
  • Hear why Susan is so passionate about closing the gaps in gender roles with confidence, leisure, wealth, and more.
  • Learn what steps you can take to close those gaps in your own life.
  • Listen to how Susan started to gain clarity about how to get the men and kids around her to start taking up the emotional slack.
  • The more we are honest about our struggles, the more we can help one another move through them.
  • Staying indoctrinated into silence and shame keeps us there.

Susan Hyatt is a Master Certified Life and Business Coach, and one of the world's leading voices on mindset, motivation, and how to become an unstoppable woman. She's also a #1 bestselling author and TEDx speaker; founder of the University for Life Coach Training; and the founder of BARE, a trademarked process that helps women shed body image issues, stop dieting, and treat their bodies with love and respect—leading to huge mental and physical health breakthroughs.

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