Episode 126: Venus Castleberg: You Are the One You Have Been Looking For

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 11 May 2022 00:15:00 -0400

What if being yourself was your only job? How would that change your reality?

These are the kinds of questions and explorations we ventured into for illumination in this gentle yet powerful conversation with my guest Venus Castleberg.

In addition to the fact that Venus is an accomplished coach, author, and workshop facilitator for Access Consciousness, she is also in her own continual process of evolution and involution.

The only relationship we need to develop is the one with ourselves. When we have a healthy relationship with ourselves, all others are just an enhancement to our lives.

If everyone realized the person they have been looking for was themselves, I believe there would not be so many heartbreaks and strained relationships out there.

In this episode she shares:

The moment her life changed based on an accident that shattered her arm.
Revealing the beauty of that opportunity to change.
"You are the one you have been looking for” - that if we feel something missing in our lives, it’s actually us that’s missing.
When we go through difficult experiences, the question to ask is, “what is the beauty happening underneath this challenge?
What if choosing joy, ease and play could change your entire reality?
Venus shares her experience of living in a castle in Italy and sleeping under a duvet threaded in gold while eating on fine china and crystal and how this expanded her vision of what’s possible in her own life.
What if our pursuit of wealth was about creating a bigger impact on how we can then increase our capacity to serve others? In other words, what if it wasn’t about acquisition but about being able to make a bigger difference?

Venus Castleberg is the author of the bestseller Here to Forever: Finally Free to Be Me, a story that explores looking for love in all the wrong places. Written with a beautiful vulnerability, clarity, and a welcoming light-heartedness, Here to Forever gives readers a glimpse into her own journey of joy and destruction, asking them to consider the possibility that love can be filled with ease and fulfillment. From a belief system that she was flawed and broken to discovering how to like herself, Venus delivers the tools and processes that others can apply to create something greater.

Venus Castleberg is a seasoned entrepreneur, coach, and joyful possibility devotee. She is a holistic healthcare practitioner with over 20 years of studying and practicing a range of modalities. Venus has developed an impressive track record, renowned for her compassion, clarity of vision, and joyful approach to life and business. You can learn more about Venus at venuscastleberg.com and follow her on Facebook @venuscastleberg and Instagram venus_castleberg.

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Episode 83: Bethany Harvey - Dipped In It

Monica Rodgers | Revelation Media LLC — Wed, 14 Jul 2021 00:00:00 -0400

In January of 2017, Bethany’s father passed away, and she was tossed into the deepest, darkest well she’d ever imagined—without warning or ceremony.

Something inside of her told her: “The only way out is to write.”
She started with a gratitude journal to remind herself of all of the people she should be grateful for in her life. She realized, however, that grateful people didn’t feel the way she felt — angry, anxious, depressed, confused, disillusioned, desperate (to name a few of grief’s cohorts).
Looking back, she realized that what she was actually doing was trying to avoid her grief.

Like many of us, she didn’t know that gratitude and grief are not mutually exclusive. She learned that she couldn’t skip over the emotions that make her uncomfortable and recognized that there is a complicated cocktail of emotions swirling inside each of us that makes us feel alive.

I talk to Bethany about the launch of her new book "Dipped In It," her odyssey into writing her book after the loss of her father, and the wisdom her emotions have brought to her life. Listen to her read a few excerpts and hear about how her daughters played a role in bringing her book to life.

In this episode we talk about:

Postpartum depression & how this shared experience brought Bethany and I together after the birth of her daughter Ruby.
The cracking open that happened after her divorce and then the death of Bethany’s beloved father.
How the expression “Dipped In It” came to be and what it means to her.
Our tendency to want to skip over difficult emotions or spiritually bypass the ones that have the most to teach us.
Grief does not have an expiration date. There isn’t a specific time in which grief can be completed. It doesn’t work that way.
Why sharing our stories with others is so vitally important and why daring to go within ourselves to dip into our own well of grief is where we can find the greatest treasures.
How allowing ourselves to be where we are in our darkest human emotions is sometimes the greatest gift we can give ourselves.
How normal it is for us to want to look like we have it all handled, but how much it can hurt us when we don’t tell people that we are struggling.
Sometimes being a good friend is looking more closely at those around us and asking, “are you ok?” - because drowning doesn’t look like drowning, literally or metaphorically.
It’s ok for us to normalize not being ok. We can’t always be ok. That’s not how life works.
Grief and gratitude are not mutually exclusive. Our human emotions can exist within us simultaneously; all of it gets to belong.

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Episode 126: Venus Castleberg: You Are the One You Have Been Looking For

Episode 83: Bethany Harvey - Dipped In It